Everything in life is a choice–are you choosing the best or are you choosing to see more negative in every situation or experience?
There are many choices for every situation or issue. Some days it seems everything goes well, people help us, the details of events/projects fall into place, outcomes and rewards are visible. Albeit other days everything seems to be up hill or full of ebbs and under-currents.
The first step is to recognize that you have an inner ‘center of control’ that is vital to your being truly in your unique flow. This ‘center of control’ emanates from your core being–the you that you are. A highly effective core can be described as:
There is immense power in these characteristics to make choices.
When people fail to choose to be the center of their choices, they generally blame others for their lack of success, or they berate themselves over past deeds, perceived mistakes and ancient experiences, and that stops the flow of creativity and forward movement.
The second step is to ‘forgive’ yourself for any perceived lack, misdeeds, perceived mistakes and ancient history–none of which, you can change no matter how much you berate yourself.
“Many people are afraid to forgive because they feel they must remember the wrong or they will not learn from it. The opposite is true. Through forgiveness, the wrong is released from its emotional stranglehold on us so that we can learn from it. Through the power and intelligence of the heart, the release of forgiveness brings expanded intelligence to work with the situation more effectively.” –David & Bruce McArthur
What does this statement convey? Although holding grudges may seem like human nature, it is a learned behaviour. Studies show that holding grudges or blaming ourselves works to the detriment not only of spiritual well-being, but for our physical health as well. Resentment, bitterness, hostility, anger and fear are emotions that have specific physiological consequences–increased blood pressure, hormonal changes, arthritis, TMJ, ulcers, cancer, lupus, fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, cardiovascular disease, immune suppression and impaired neurological function and the list goes on. Metaphysics research reveals every physical illness has a mental/emotional cause and there is a metaphysical way to overcome them.
On the other side the coin, research reveals that forgiveness reduces the stress of the unforgiving state. Researcher Charlotte vanOyen Wityliet, posits that forgiveness needs to be incorporated into everyone’s maturation process as a way of life, not merely a response to specific insults. Thus, forgiveness is part of a child’s acculturation instead of a side bar in life. Learning to forgive, needs to be as important as learning to say, please and thank you. “It’s a process, not a moment,” says Dr. Edward M. Hallowell, a Harvard psychiatrist and author of “Dare to Forgive.”
Forgiveness–Ordinary Acts, Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD
Forgiveness–Benefits, Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD
Forgiveness–The Key To Peace of Mind
Forgiveness–Truths and Myths, Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD
Forgiveness–A Misunderstood Concept, Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD